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What To Know About Helping Your Child Deal With Anger Issues

Your child may struggle with anger issues and expressing themselves appropriately. While this is a common issue, it’s best to get it sorted as soon as possible.

Read on to find out everything you need to know about anger issues in children.

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Why is my child so angry?

If your child seems angrier and more aggressive than other children or has emotional outbursts frequently, there could be several reasons why:

  • Seeing other family members arguing or being angry with each other

  • Friendship problems

  • Being bullied

  • Struggling with schoolwork or exams

  • Feeling very stressed, anxious or fearful about something

  • Coping with hormone changes during puberty

  • Underlying conditions such as ADHD, anxiety, an undiagnosed learning disability, sensory processing issues or autism

What can I do to help?

There are several strategies you could use to help your child with anger management:

Give your child tips to manage their anger

Try and work together to find out what triggers the anger. Talk about helpful strategies and coping mechanisms for managing anger.

You could encourage your child to:

  • count to 10

  • walk away from the situation

  • breathe slowly and deeply

  • clench and unclench their fists to ease tension

  • talk to a trusted person

  • go to a private place to calm down

Stay calm

Try to avoid shouting at a raging child, as this will only make them more aggressive and defiant. You should try and be a model of good behaviour for your child to look up to.

Don’t give in to their demands

Whatever you do, do not fold to their demands and agree to do what they want to stop their behaviour. This only encourages their outbursts - you need to make it clear that what is going on is not appropriate.

Praise appropriate behaviour

When your child calms down, praise them for composing themselves and reinforce this behaviour. Stress the benefits of them expressing their feelings verbally and calmly, as well as coming to a compromise.

Punish bad behaviour

You will need to maintain constant discipline to show your child that negative behaviour has consequences. When your child breaks the rules, you should follow through with a consequence - this could entail taking away a privilege or giving them a chore.

Help your child spot the signs of anger

If your child is able to identify the signs of their anger early on, they can make positive decisions about how to handle it.

Physical signs may include:

  • their heart beating faster

  • their muscles tensing

  • they clench their teeth

  • they make a fist

  • their stomach churning

If you’re curious about helping children with anger issues, you might be interested in our counselling children and adolescents diploma. Contact us to discover our range of professional and accredited counselling courses available throughout the UK.


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